English-Vinglish

Watched English-Vinglish recently again. Very beautiful character played by Shreedevi. Really wonderfully narrated character, her psychology, family fabric & how it affects an individual.
Just because Shashi didn't know English language she was repeatedly humiliated by her daughter, "तुमने हिन्दीमें बात करके ओकवर्ड महसुस कराया, तुम्हे आना ही नही चाहिये था'', ''तुम्हे पढना आता तो तुम डायरी पढती ना'',.......... words are very potent weapon which damages person psyche, erode person's self confidence just as amir gives example of Solomon island in '' tar zamin par'' about people gathering and cursing tree so that it dies out. Similarly Shashi started loosing confidence in herself, she could not love herself.
Also didn't get recognition and respect from her husband, though she made mouth watering laddoo  her husband says '' she is born to make laddoos'' as if she couldn't do anything else.
Every person needs appreciation of their work, which Shashi didn't get. It was natural for her to feel useless because she didn't get back the love and respect she was giving to her family.
Shashi found true companion in her niece, who understood her, helped her, praised her for what she was doing. Also in her English Class she got recognition of her work, that she was ''an entrepreneur ''. She was praised there she was brightest among all. It helped getting her confidence back. Also fellow fellow praising her saying he comes to class for her make her realize that she was beautiful, loveable. And she started loving herself.
Every person has an inbuilt love tank in their psyche which needs to be refilled. And this refilling is to be done by family. But what happens is that we start taking family members for granted for what they do in our life, we easily criticise but rarely praise. Always praise and feel gratitude for whatever they do, give love and respect, because this is what a family is supposed to do.